You Will Not Be Everyone's Cup Of Tea And That's Okay! A Lesson In Self-Acceptance

My journey breaking free from people-pleasing has taught me many powerful life lessons.

One of those lessons has been self-acceptance. This can be extra challenging as a business owner and content creator.

Being vulnerable and sharing your creations can feel intimidating! Selling your services and getting a "no" can feel deflating. Little to no interest in a program you are offering can feel discouraging.

The past couple of years I have been doing more to push past these feelings and show up and do my thing anyway. What typically happens is I will have a moment where I can flow and show up and then I get intimidated and hide again. I talk about my history of hiding in a previous post here.

Something shifted in me about two months ago when I was journaling about what it was I was resisting. Things came up from my childhood and family experiences. After writing throughout the day, my conclusion was surprising. I was resisting self-acceptance.

I need to fully embrace me for being me. I am not going to be everyone's cup of tea and that is okay! Think about a musician, author, or artist you admire...not everyone likes them. What if they stopped creating because of that reason? We would miss out on their amazingness!

When I was working on getting my coaching certification, I remember one of the instructors saying to us that certain people will resonate with us and others will not. We are our own unique blend that is just right for certain people. It can repel others. We are the medicine that someone needs. We offer something that only we can offer them. That is what the world needs!

We are not meant to be liked by everyone. The only person we should worry about being liked by is ourselves! On a conscious level I was there, but subconsciously it didn't really take hold until a couple of months ago.

This blog challenge I have been doing this month has been helping me step into myself even more. It is very liberating and helping me cultivate more self-acceptance. I have been connecting to myself more through this blog challenge and enjoying the process.

Is confidently showing up being yourself a challenge for you? Here are some journal prompts that can help you with your journey towards self-acceptance.

 Journal Prompts to Cultivate Self-Acceptance

1. What parts of myself have I been judging or hiding, and what might happen if I chose to embrace them instead?

   
   

2. What would I say to a younger version of myself who was trying so hard to be “good enough”? What does she need to hear?

   
   

3. In what areas of my life am I still seeking external validation? What might it look like to validate myself instead?

   
   

4. What does self-acceptance feel like in my body? How do I know when I’m moving in that direction?

   
   

5. What imperfections or quirks have others criticized that I now realize are part of my magic?

   
   

6. What does my inner critic usually say to me—and what would my inner nurturer say in response?

   
   

7. What am I proud of myself for surviving, learning, or becoming—regardless of what anyone else thinks?

   
   

8. If I fully accepted myself as I am today, what would I stop doing? What would I start doing?

   
   

9. What does being “enough” mean to me—and where did I learn that definition? Does it still serve me?

   
   

10. What does radical self-compassion look like in my daily life? How can I practice it today, even in a small way?

What makes you uniquely you? How can you cultivate more self-acceptance in your life? Let me know in the comments.